Breaking the Cycle of Blame


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Have you ever heard yourself saying these words? “If only he would change” or “if she would stop pushing my buttons I could do better.” I sometimes have this overwhelming feeling that it’s everyone else that’s THE PROBLEM.

It can seem like everyone else is holding us back or causing us to even stumble.

Our focus is on others, on survival, on anything but ourSELF.

Whether you are struggling with addiction or you know someone who is this is extremely important because we are all in this life journey together. Learning together. We are mirrors to each other and are expanding because of our challenges with one another.

I got so tired at one point in my life of the PAIN and suffering I was going through whether real or imagined. It hurt.

It’s the same old thing that kept coming up for me that I believed was “BETRAYAL.” This painful recurrence had been around in my life, and I was really ready to slay the beast. In my spiritual walk, I had come across a book that changed my life called “A Course in Miracles.” I won’t get too far into explaining this book but is a great companion tool for self-help and spiritual growth or even 12 step programs.

Here was the ‘aha’ paragraph:

“When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you see him, you will see yourself. As you treat him, you will treat yourself. As you think of him, you will think of yourself. Never forget this, for in him you will find yourself or lose yourself. Whenever two Sons of God meet, they are given another chance at salvation. Do not leave anyone without giving salvation to him and receiving it yourself. For I am always there with you, in remembrance of you.”― A Course in Miracles

This journey is about one thing and one thing only-YOU.

When you can realize the gift each person is in your life and the gift that you are for them, transformation can begin.

When you can shift your perspective ever so slightly. Look at the situation from their eyes for a moment, even if you don’t agree. They are you, and you are them. Be brave and look straight in the mirror (you and your brother or sister) and have compassion and love for YOU. They are just reflecting a lesson to be learned, and it’s usually a call to LOVE.

It takes time to change old ways of being and doing. Put simply it’s awareness, acceptance, and allowing true healing in your life, shifting your situation just by changing your perspective. Be gentle on yourself. We need each other to give and receive ALL the blessing of “salvation.”

Published by Robin

Freelance Creative Writer

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